Let's Talk Relationships

Let's Talk Relationships by Vanessa Rogers

Encouraging young people to talk about sensitive relationship issues is rarely easy, but this book will smooth the process.

Featuring some 90 activities split into five categories, there's something to suit every age and ability range, as well as some sound advice drawn from the author's ten years of youth work experience. This book will help make both group work and one-on-one sessions valuable, educational and enjoyable, both for the young people and for you. 


Youth Support Worker (July 2012)

I bought Vanessa's book 'Let's Talk Relationships' to use with young people in Brazil who had moved from favelas in central Rio to a rural setting on the outskirts of the city. I am extremely glad I made the purchase! This book helped me throughout my time working with young people in Brazil, especially when I was asked to design a sex and relationships course. The great variety of activities, clear layout and detailed yet straightforward guidance was invaluable. The majority of activities worked really well in a cross-cultural environment. There really is something for everyone in this book!

Sophia Davies, Youth Support Worker in Charge, Youth Connexions


Counselling Children and Young People (March 2011)

Reviewed by Jenny Bloomer MBACP, (counsellor / psychotherapist)

The author of this book has invaluable experience of working with young people and has produced a resource of activities that exudes enthusiasm and creativity. Her understanding of the difficulties faced by young people today is demonstrated by the way these are addressed in different chapters. The activities aim to increase communication between young people, their parents, teachers and youth workers and to develop personal insight, wellbeing, and importantly the safety of young people.

Initially, the aims of the five main sections of the book are succinctly set you (and this new edition has around 10 new activities per section), after which the reader is offered important and helpful guidelines when considering a potential group, addressing the issues of ground rules, boundaries, respect, participation and, finally, the evaluation process that involves all group members.

Getting to Know Each Other – the first of the main chapters – offers many different ways of helping the participants feel comfortable in the group setting and supported by each other as well as by the facilitator. The next chapter, Friendships and Peer Groups, aims to develop awareness about the undesirability of bullying, from both the receiving and delivering ends. Positive and negative aspects of friendships are also explored in this chapter – very important for young teens who can be so vulnerable in their teens

Living at Home is addressed sensitively, and all of us who have or have had teenagers know how difficult this time can be, while those of us who work with them also know the difficulties they may experience. Practical help is also offered in this chapter for preparation towards living independently. Needless to say, the chapter Love, Sex and All That, is vital – full of sensible and understanding food for thought! In her introduction, the author suggests that the activities in Evaluations and Endings chapter ‘encourage young people to celebrate their achievements and help identify further needs’ – which sum it up accurately.

Each section of each chapter suggests the optimum number of group participants, with quickly accessible ‘Aims’, ‘What you will Need’ and ‘How to do it’ for each activity. Throughout, there are questionnaires for the participant to fill in, tick-boxes, quizzes, fact sheets, stories and cards. Many of these can be photocopied and are therefore useful. At the end of the book, there are relevant websites, including two Australian ones.

I feel sure anyone working with young people would find this a beneficial and accessible resource. For those working with difficult youngsters who would not fit into and group and for parents who are finding communication difficult with their teenager(s), there are many varied ideas from which they too could choose.

Counselling Children and Young People (CCYP) is the quarterly professional journal for members of BACP's Counselling Children and Young People division. It is published by the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy.


Amazon Book Reviews

"I was given this book by a colleague, who is a social worker as he reckoned it was one of the best books he had ever bought to get young people talking about personal relationships. I was not disappointed! Easy to read and full of good fun ideas to teach young people about sex, peer pressure, bullying as well as looking at living at home and the common sources of tension between teenagers and their parents. Don't usually write reveiws etc but this time felt I had to share this with other people!I would highly recommend this to teachers, youth workers or parents as a good source of ideas to cover what is often an embarrassing subject! I have also got "Have you ever?" by the same author and we are tring to get hold of copies of her other books for our school. "

Reviewed by: Amazon Customer

"One of the hardest jobs when working with young people is getting them to open up and talk about sensitive issues such as relationships and personal feelings . It is a huge responsibility for every youth worker, therefore this book - who's author has extensive field experience - gives sound advice, direction and motivation to try new ideas (whilst creating new ones too!).
I was really pleased to find a book that marries simplicity and effectiveness in so many different ways (well, 90 actually). Each of the activites have been tried and tested, allowing you the confidence to try them out safe in the knowledge they have already worked for other groups.
I have purchased and read four books now by Vanessa Rogers, each in a similar format (i.e. practical activities for working with young people), and must say that I have found them all invaluable and would highly recommend them to anyone working (or thinking of working) with young people."

Reviewed by: Amazon Customer